Love to Hate

Is hate built into the human psyche? Are people inherently bad, and they only keep the evil under wraps because it’s what society expects? I’m starting to think so.

Now, before you start sending me emails and telling me that you know some really honest and decent people, I get it. I know several too. I know they’ve never had an evil thought or wished anybody harm in their entire life. I know they exist. But they’re in the minority.

For today though, I’m talking about what I think are the majority of people – closet haters.

Let’s start off with an example. Internet trolls. If you’re unfamiliar with the term, it’s someone who deliberately starts arguments and sows the seeds of discord, usually in a chat room, via a Twitter feed, or in the comment section of an internet post. They’re basically there to disrupt the conversations and thoughts of others. They’re mean and nasty.

But why?

Because they enjoy it. It makes them feel good. It makes them feel connected to others. It makes them the center of attention.

I think Frank Sinatra summed it up perfectly when he sang these words in his song That’s Life:

…and as funny as it may seem

Some people get their kicks, stompin’ on a dream

Yep. There are people like this.

I remember watching an episode of the Twilight Zone where a robot caretaker at a cemetery, killed off the main characters. His reason? He said that as long as men were alive, there could be no peace. And this cemetery promised everlasting peace. So he killed them to keep the peace (SkyNET, party of one).

Even in one of my favorite movies, Die Hard, Alan Rickman delivered a line that went something like this:

And when Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept…for there were no more worlds to conquer 

Hatred of others, their values and their cultures, that’s what defined Alexander at his most basic level. The Greek way of life was the finest- all others were inferior. And on a much smaller scale, this line of reasoning holds true even today.

The three major religions promote a sense of community, but at the same time, create an “US versus THEM” mentality.

To me, it always seems like everyone’s god is upset with them for doing something to someone at sometime.

Doesn’t God have better things to do than keep track of everyone sins? He’s omnipotent. He doesn’t need to keep track. He knew you sinned before you did it.

And while I’m quoting song lyrics, how about this one from Barry McGuire’s song, Eve of Destruction:

Hate your next door neighbor, but don’t forget to say grace

I always thought that line was especially apropos to the world in general.

Our minds seem to crave drama. If we’re happy and content we always seem to do something to screw it up.

How many of us like to watch celebrities fall from grace? OJ. Bill Cosby. Charlie Sheen.

There seems to be a deep-seated need for discord, built into the DNA of every human being, and I don’t think there’s any escaping it.

Contentment seems to be bad word. People like drama.


  1. This is quite a somber post. Well-written, well-researched, dear cousin.

    1. Lindsay says:

      I agree. Too many doggy downers, Steve?

  2. Frootloops says:

    Wow. Not at all your usual happy posts. It’s a holiday. Cheer up!

  3. Al Bundy says:

    Dude, Bumming me out on a holiday weekend? You bastard. 🙂

  4. Emily says:

    I could not agree more. People have a need to insert themselves into situations where they do not belong. Great post.

  5. Stewie11 says:

    Well fat man. Your meds obviously need a booster shot. You seem to be coming down from your usual high. I agree though. people need to mind their own business and stay out of things.

  6. TooManyDogs says:

    I’m with you on this one.

  7. DW3 says:

    Having been the target of internet trolls, I wholeheartedly agree with everything in this post. Trolls are lonely little people who have no creative or intellectual facilities of their own, and so simply get their kicks from tearing down others. These are the dangerous people.

  8. TheRealSheldonCooper says:

    Someone needs a chorus of Soft Kitty.

    Soft kitty, warm kitty,
    little ball of fur,
    happy kitty, sleepy kitty,
    purr purr purr.

  9. stevemargolis says:

    Apparently I need to be more upbeat with my posts.
    In addition to these comments, I just got an email where someone called me a “negative nellie”.
    That’s just over the line!
    Ok. It’s Memorial Day weekend and I was thinking of all the people we lost in wars, and was saddened by the fact that nothing will ever change. We never seem to learn. All we do is repeat the same old mistakes.
    Anyway, sorry for turning toward the dark side. Next week I’ll turn back toward the light.

    1. RedKitten says:

      We forgive you. But Future Fortune better not suck.

  10. TrueVBU says:

    I agree 100%.

    1. DocFester says:

      The human race is doomed.

  11. Blue Bear says:

    End poverty and teach children self esteem (and not racism and classism). Zero tolerance for bullys, as they grow up to become the people who make this world suck for others. I think the Beatles/John Lennon were on the right track…”Love is All You Need” + “A Little Help From My Friends” = “Imagine”. I’m a glass half-full kind of person. 🙂


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